Saturday, August 25, 2007

School, Work, Injury and Friendship Lost

Wow! A whole month has passed since my last post! I can't believe it! But, what a busy month it has been. Where to begin...

I don't think I have picked up my stitching at all in the last month. I really need to pick up my train and work on it, but, alas, it hasn't happened. With college football season starting next weekend I will probably pick it up and stitch on it while the game is on. My hubby is a big fan of his alma mater the University of Florida Gators, so, of course, the games will be on at our house. May as well use the time productively. :-)

My son started back to school this week. I can't say he was thrilled with it. School is not his favorite thing and seeing his friends was the only real incentive. He did, however, have positive things to say about his new teachers, so that was good. I am hoping it will be a good school year and that math won't continue to be the demon it has been for him. We have gone ahead and started him in tutoring for it first thing to try and get a head start on it all. I hate dishing out the $100 a month for that, but hopefully it will help him.

It has been HOT, HOT, HOT here. The thermastat in my car was reading 102 and 103 this week when I was going to pick up my son from school and that doesn't include heat index. Needless to say we have been staying inside. How can you do anything else?!

I started my new job as a bookkeeper for a very small accounting business 2 weeks ago. The job itself is a little boring to me, but I can't really complain about it. My new boss is really nice and very easy going, so that is a wonderful change from my last 2 horrid positions. I am pretty much left alone to do my work and not hounded constantly by an overbearing boss. The only problems, if you would count them that, is that the office is horribly cluttered and looks like it hasn't been cleaned in a decade. I need to come in with a bucket of cleaning supplies and at least clean my little rectangle. There is a layer of dust and cobwebs on everything and I won't mention the things I found in my desk drawers. I think some of the drawers haven't been opened in a decade either. But, the money is decent, it's not stressful and it works with my schedule.

I somehow hurt my neck the beginning of last week. I have no clue how. The pain started on Tuesday morning and became increasingly severe as the day wore on. It started in the back, left of my head and radiated down into my neck. It triggered a severe migraine and horrid nausea. I finally went to the doctor the next morning when the pain was worse. He said that I had (somehow) pulled a ligament at the base of my skull (about an inch away from my left ear). He gave me muscle relaxants and painkillers for it. The pain would not only radiate down my neck and trigger migraines, but would radiate through my ear (somewhat like an ear ache/infection pain) and jaw as well. Needless to say it was not a good week and I ended up spending a good deal of time in bed. It wasn't until Thursday of this week that I finally felt like I could move my neck pretty normally. I was still feel a hair hesitant about it (movement) though. I am hoping it will be 100% very soon.

I've thought about posting this before, but haven't. So, here goes...In May the daughter of a close friend of ours got married. At the rehearsal dinner the mom (our friend) asked if I had cross-stitched anything for her daughter for the wedding. I was very shocked to be asked point blank about what I had gotten them, but I told her "No," that I had purchased a couple of items from her register for her kitchen and made her a recipe book (collected recipes from some of her friends and relatives with personal stories about the recipe, why it was liked, etc., and then compiled it all in a handmade book. I also left plenty of room in the back of the book for her to continue to collect recipes from friends over the years). She then ask me, "Why not?" Again, I am shocked. I told her that I just hadn't because I had done the other stuff (the items and recipe book) and that I really hadn't had much time in the last year. Not to mention (though I didn't say this) that I didn't think the cross-stitch gift would be appreciated by either her or the daughter enough for me to spend the money for the materials, hours stitching it and money framing it. I had given a cross-stitch to her other daughter when she had had a baby and it hadn't been appreciated by any of them. Anyhow...to make a long story longer...the mom was very upset with me after this. She barely spoke to me the rest of the weekend, forced a goodbye when we left to drive back home on Sunday and we haven't heard a word from them since. On top of that, I haven't received a thank you card for the kitchen items or the handmade recipe book. I don't understand this. I lost a friend because I didn't cross-stitch something for her daughter?!!! Have any of you ever been asked point blank by someone why you didn't cross-stitch something for them or their family member?

Well..enough for now. Hope to post more quickly next time and possibly have something to show you guys stitch wise.

8 comments:

Katrina said...

Sometimes a nice laid back job is a good thing. Sorry about your friend, I think it was a bit presumptous of her and I can't believe she's not talking to you. It's a shame, but sounds like you are a better friend than she is.

Sharon said...

Hi Jinger, hoping your neck is much better. I hope too that the job will go okay. Your friend is really different-I agree with Katrina. Why would she assume that you would automatically stitch something? Anyway, looking forward to seeng what you are stitching.

Stitchingnow said...

Congrats on the new job. Sorry about your friend doing that to you. Mabe you are better off without a freind like that. No one has ever asked me something like that. I would be apalled if they did. Hope you can get some stitcing done soon.

Connie said...

A person would think if a cross stitch project was THAT important to this friend, she would have starting dropping hints months ago. How odd. I too have found that alot of the time all the hard work of a stitched project is not appreciated and quickly ends up in the closet or thrown away.

Again, what an odd reaction!!! Bless your heart for your hand made recipe book! Now THAT is a treasure!!!

Lauren said...

Congrats on the new job! How odd (and rude!) of your friend. I don't stitch for people who I don't think will appreciate it, either.

Name: Vicki said...

I hope your son catches on to math. As a former math teacher, I can tell you that it's not unusual for kids to have trouble with math. I always told my students that everyone has subjects that are easy for them and subjects that are HARD! My students wouldn't want to try! I told them that you have to work harder in the subjects that are hard for you! I can't believe your friend! I have never had anyone to point blank ask me did I stitch anything. I, too, think the handmade book is priceless! Again I am sorry about your friend, but I have decided that "friends" like that are not worth stressing over! Have a great day!

Von said...

It's a shame this friendship was dissolved in such a way, but all the shame goes to this former "friend".

Glad your new job fits in with your life so well!! :D

Red said...

The recipe book sounded very thoughtful and obviously you put some very nice time and thought into it. That's no friend if A-she is pretentious like that...and B-ended the friendship over something as trivial as your choice of what you MADE with your hands and time for a gift. With today's divorce rate the way it is, I choose NOT to make Wedding Samplers...they are usualy the first to be discarded in fits of anger in divorces.